“Go big or go home” is said; to be bold, to go all-out, experience something to the fullest or to be extravagant. For some the idea can be overwhelming, the birth place of imposter syndrome and freeze mode. In order to bite away at this statement, we need to look at how the smaller changes may just be your ALL-OUT.
If you are looking for a quick fix, this read may not be for you.
Understanding that any changes take time and being open to new ways of developing skills, we will have a look at a couple topics from both personal and business:
- Time Management
- Goal Setting
- Conflict Management
Through the 4 years of growing my nail business and 2 years of coaching, there have been moments of leaning into the theory of “Go big or go home” and what it has offered. In this segment I shall explore what it has offered me in the long term of personal success with the wins and challenges faced.
- Time Management
Yes, we have all been told to manage our time in order to master our day.
These are a couple lessons I have learnt through mismanaging my time within my businesses and personal life:
- No work or social life boundaries.
- Loss of business.
- Inconsistency within the working space and personal circles.
- Poor communication.
- Increased anxiety and depression.
- Low levels of trust and self-esteem.
As there is an extended list, these elements have played a role in what the growth or decrease in business has meant for me. Such as a decline in clients, never having enough time to do what I would call living, always working late hours to compensate for the time I wasted over concerns that needed very little to no attention.
When hitting a point in business where the wheels seem to be coming off is a great opportunity to re-evaluate, with an honest eye as to what are the main issues and sourcing new perspective.
Upon the search of trying something new, starting small comes up a lot more frequently as this aids in expanding a comfort zone to gain better and new results.
Here are a few opportunities that have developed through better time management:
- Discipline to complete and follow through on projects.
- Working time frames such as: working ON the business and IN the business.
- Celebrating “no”.
- Building quality and lasting relationships.
- Flexibility when crisis hits.
- High productivity.
- Restful sleep.
- Inspiration to view the world of business and life with new eyes.
My continued and greatest take away from managing time more effectively is in the art of adding smaller or even tiny tasks that support the larger picture. Bare in mind that there is already a standing set of routines and behaviours, those of which become the ground work to move through the changes incrementally.
- Goal Setting
The topic of being part of the 1% of people who sets goals is shouted out loud on Social Media “mountain tops”. Before actually understanding why this seemed to be so exclusive, I was caught in the cycle of life happening to me, rather than making life happen for me.
What life looked like WITHOUT written, personally designed goals:
- All ideas are a priority.
- Yo-yo between wanting and needing change.
- Starting and never finishing projects.
- Think all is well because business is busy and seems to be thriving (no measuring processes beside a dairy and payment system).
- Only taking a holiday once a year, for a week.
- Living hand to mouth, on the premise that business and life won’t change.
- Focus only on one Goal that could only be achieved in 5 years.
Having that 20/20 vision, I have come to understand this mammoth idea of Goal Setting. The purpose, I have found is to break it down into attainable steps with measuring processes in place as well as time frames where adjustments can be made once action is taken.
Was it that simple? Definitely not. I truly struggled with the idea that goals are ridged, that once you have achieved it there is no need to look into the next one… It all simply just ended.
What setting and working on goals has offered:
- Goals designed by my own hand.
- Understanding what falls under the priority list without feeling overwhelmed.
- Rewards are not goals.
- Setting automations, KPIs and so much more supports a sustainable growth in business.
- Healthy working and life boundaries can be formed.
- Holidays are goals to work toward and don’t need to fall into once a year.
- Generating new goals offers expansion without limits.
With my new found experience of setting goals it has become a fun part of my week, to take inventory of what was and what is to come, which in essence offers space to celebrate the present moment.
- Conflict Management
Throughout business and life there are moments of conflict that arise, learning when and how to manage through them brings about growth on a personal development stand point.
What it looks like not being able to manage through conflict:
- People pleasing to avoid having difficult conversations.
- Bullying in the workplace.
- Anger and aggravation toward others.
- Disliking work.
- Lowered service delivery.
- Continually late for work/ high turnover.
- Passive aggressive behaviour.
- Loss of connection within family and friend circles.
- Avoidance of responsibility.
As always, there are countless more to add to the list of the effects of poor conflict management. One of the greatest lessons is nurturing clear communication as well as understanding that everyone does not have the same perception as you.
How can this be overcome you may ask. The answer may seem simple, like the intricate web of a spider. In order to understand the ways of overcoming conflict is to view it from the outskirts and work to the center being your personal beliefs and how that ripples into those around you.
Here are a few points that have come through effective conflict management:
- Ownership of faults.
- Team development.
- Respect of self and others.
- Clear communication and understanding of concerns within the workplace.
- Showing up as part of a team, in turn building success within a company.
- Ability to have honest conversations that lead to a solution based outcome.
Conflict, in it’s simplest form, is an opportunity to seek out understanding to work toward a solution that honors the differences in each person.
The “Go Big or Go Home” statement is a lie we’ve been made to believe would produce sustainable change within business and personal success. The greatest success stories are made through small or tiny actions.
If you would like to take a deeper look into the topics mentioned above, I will be hosting a Time Mastery Introduction on the 26 August 2023 with my co-host Kenny Archer from Archer Inspirations. Reserve your seat today! https://archerinspirations.com/time-mastery/